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                                              pickle jar as far back as I can 
                                              remember sat on the floor beside 
                                              the dresser in my parents' bedroom. 
                                              When he got ready for bed, Dad would 
                                              empty his pockets and toss his coins 
                                              into the jar. As 
                                              a small boy I was always fascinated 
                                              at the sounds the coins made as 
                                              they were dropped into the jar. 
                                              They landed with a merry jingle 
                                              when the jar was almost empty. Then 
                                              the tones gradually muted to a dull 
                                              thud as the jar was filled. I 
                                              used to squat on the floor in front 
                                              of the jar and admire the copper 
                                              and silver circles that glinted 
                                              like a pirate's treasure when the 
                                              sun poured through the bedroom window. 
                                              When the jar was filled, Dad would 
                                              sit at the kitchen table and roll 
                                              the coins before taking them to 
                                              the bank. Taking 
                                              the coins to the bank was always 
                                              a big production. Stacked neatly 
                                              in a small cardboard box, the coins 
                                              were placed between Dad and me on 
                                              the seat of his old truck. Each 
                                              and every time, as we drove to the 
                                              bank, Dad would look at me hopefully. 
                                              "Those coins are going to keep 
                                              you out of the textile mill, son. 
                                              You're going to do better than me. 
                                              This old mill town's not going to 
                                              hold you back." Also, 
                                              each and every time, as he slid 
                                              the box of rolled coins across the 
                                              counter at the bank toward the cashier, 
                                              he would grin proudly "These 
                                              are for my son's college fund. He'll 
                                              never work at the mill all his life 
                                              like me." We 
                                              would always celebrate each deposit 
                                              by stopping for an ice cream cone. 
                                              I always got chocolate. Dad always 
                                              got vanilla. When the clerk at the 
                                              ice cream parlor handed Dad his 
                                              change, he would show me the few 
                                              coins nestled in his palm. "When 
                                              we get home, we'll start filling 
                                              the jar again." He always let 
                                              me drop the first coins into the 
                                              empty jar. As they rattled around 
                                              with a brief, happy jingle, we grinned 
                                              at each other. "You'll get 
                                              to college on pennies, nickels, 
                                              dimes and quarters," he said. 
                                              "But you'll get there. I'll 
                                              see to that." The 
                                              years passed, and I finished college 
                                              and took a job in another town. 
                                              Once, while visiting my parents, 
                                              I used the phone in their bedroom, 
                                              and noticed that the pickle jar 
                                              was gone. It had served its purpose 
                                              and had been removed. A 
                                              lump rose in my throat as I stared 
                                              at the spot beside the dresser where 
                                              the jar had always stood. My dad 
                                              was a man of few words, and never 
                                              lectured me on the values of determination, 
                                              perseverance, and faith. The 
                                              pickle jar had taught me all these 
                                              virtues far more eloquently than 
                                              the most flowery of words could 
                                              have done. When I married, I told 
                                              my wife Susan about the significant 
                                              part the lowly pickle jar had played 
                                              in my life as a boy. In my mind, 
                                              it defined, more than anything else, 
                                              how much my dad had loved me. No 
                                              matter how rough things got at home, 
                                              Dad continued to doggedly drop his 
                                              coins into the jar. Even the summer 
                                              when Dad got laid off from the mill, 
                                              and Mama had to serve dried beans 
                                              several times a week, not a single 
                                              dime was taken from the jar. To 
                                              the contrary, as Dad looked across 
                                              the table at me, pouring catsup 
                                              over my beans to make them more 
                                              palatable, he became more determined 
                                              than ever to make a way out for 
                                              me. "When you finish college, 
                                              Son," he told me, his eyes 
                                              glistening, "You'll never have 
                                              to eat beans again - unless you 
                                              want to." The 
                                              first Christmas after our daughter 
                                              Jessica was born, we spent the holiday 
                                              with my parents. After dinner, Mom 
                                              and Dad sat next to each other on 
                                              the sofa, taking turns cuddling 
                                              their first grandchild. Jessica 
                                              began to whimper softly, and Susan 
                                              took her from Dad's arms. "She 
                                              probably needs to be changed," 
                                              she said, carrying the baby into 
                                              my parents' bedroom to diaper her. 
                                              When Susan came back into the living 
                                              room, there was a strange mist in 
                                              her eyes.She handed Jessica back to Dad before 
                                              taking my hand and leading me into 
                                              the room. "Look," she 
                                              said softly, her eyes directing 
                                              me to a spot on the floor beside 
                                              the dresser. To my amazement, there, 
                                              as if it had never been removed, 
                                              stood the old pickle jar, the bottom 
                                              already covered with coins. I walked 
                                              over to the pickle jar, dug down 
                                              into my pocket, and pulled out a 
                                              fistful of coins. With a gamut of 
                                              emotions choking me, I dropped the 
                                              coins into the jar. I looked up 
                                              and saw that Dad, carrying Jessica, 
                                              had slipped quietly into the room. 
                                              Our eyes locked, and I knew he was 
                                              feeling the same emotions I felt. 
                                              Neither one of us could speak.
 This 
                                              truly touched my heart. I know it 
                                              has yours as well. Sometimes we 
                                              are so busy adding up our troubles 
                                              that we forget to count our blessings. Never 
                                              underestimate the power of your 
                                              actions. With one small gesture 
                                              you can change a person's life, 
                                              for better or for worse. God 
                                              puts us all in each other's lives 
                                              to impact one another in some way. 
                                              Look for God in others.The best and most beautiful things 
                                              cannot be seen or touched - they 
                                              must be felt with the heart ~ Helen 
                                              Keller
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